This is a long one…
I arrived in Varanasi on Saturday, and the pendulum of my soul and my emotions hasn’t stopped swinging since I got here. There is so, so much to tell. I’ll focus on the parts that stand out to me right now, and the rest will no doubt trickle into future blog posts as important yet forgotten things have want to do.
On Thursday of last week, at 6am, myself and 5 travel companions left Sadhana Forest in search of the Indian North. Our journey took us first by taxi to Chennai, the closest major city to Sadhana Forest, and from the Chennai train station we caught a train straight up through the center of the country to Varanasi – a legendary city that I have just learned is often partnered with Jerusalem. For those of you who have been to Jerusalem, picture the narrow, winding alley ways of the old city, the beaten down stones that make the streets, and the spiritual energy that seems to permeate absolutely everything. This is Varanasi – just in India, and with a lot more cows and a lot less Jews. Built up on the river of the holy Ganga (Ganges) River, the city is a powerful mix of colour, spiritual exploration, poverty, creation, corruption, art, meditation, pollution, and spice, all mixed into one ever-moving, ever-flowing body. Being here has taken me on a whirlwind of emotional expeditions, and I’m still watching myself change.
Our train was meant to take 38 hours, but as trains tend to do, this train was 6 hours late. This brought us into Varanasi at a comfortable 10:30am, rather than the scheduled 4:30am. I can’t tell you how thankful I was for those few extra hours. The six of us shared a sleeper-class compartment, which really meant that we had a window in common, but were fully exposed to the rest of the train and all its passengers. As the hours passed by we talked and ate, ate and talked, and slept. I can’t count the packages of cookies, nuts, raisins, cups of steaming chai, and train station dosas we went through. At Indian train stations, they’ve figured out the most ingenious system of feeding the people – at each station, the pushcarts and vendors stand ready at attention, and as the train comes to stop they all rush up to the windows offering their mouthwatering, greasy goodness. For 10 rupees you can have 3 donuts, 3 samosas, or a handful of peanuts. 5 rupees will buy you a hot chai or a banana. If you follow the masses and hop off the train (always looking back to see if your car has started to move without you on the train), you can find steaming masala dosas, chappatis, and other delicious meals. And if you think you’ve missed your chance for food because you were asleep for the stop and the train has already started to move, you are so wrong. Be prepared for another 10 minutes of “Chai-ee, chai-ee, chai-ee!” and other such chants as vendors board the moving train with you and deliver snacks to your cabin, making a jump for the station before the train has picked up too much speed.
Sufficed to say, VIA rail and AmTrack have a lot to learn about food service and customer satisfaction. I have never been so satisfied with the snacks offered to me by my travel carrier.
As we moved further and further north on the train, the weather began to cool down significantly. On the first night, it was a bit nippy. By the middle of the second night, it was definitely no more than 5 degrees. Slowly, the Indians around us started pulling out their wonderful 1970′s sweaters, jackets, and – the new fad – ear muffs. We were slow to take the hint, and so at 4:30am we found ourselves shuffling out of our thin blankets and sleep sheets to sift through our backpacks for socks, thermal underwear, sweaters, shawls, and any layers we could possibly find. Our breezy, south–Indian clothing wasn’t up for the task of keeping us from freezing. We eventually managed to warm up, and by 10:30 am we arrived at the Varanasi train station. Such a welcome relief… after doing nothing but sitting and eating greasy, carbohydrate-filled food for 45 hours, carrying our heavy bags up the stairs from the platform was a great work-out.
We found a lovely guest house, got some lunch, and hit the sack for a few hours of motionless, warm, noise-less sleep.
We’ve been in Varanasi for 5 days now, and there’s still so, so, so much to see.
Our guest house is about 50 paces from the steps leading down to the Ganga. We wake up every morning and do some group yoga and meditation on the rooftop of our guest house (that looks right over the rooftops of Varanasi and onto the river), and then we take a short walk down and along the bank of the river, all the way over to our favourite find – a dear little restaurant called “Ashish”, where we have tried, collectively, almost everything on the menu. I prefer to start my day with a big bowl of oatmeal porridge made with milk and fresh bananas, with a little honey on the top. After breakfast, we go exploring – sometimes alone, sometimes all together – and by 12 noon we find that we have been walking for hours, and have stumbled upon some new gem of a place.
On our second night here, one guy in our group arranged for us to have a private concert with a couple of musicians who work in one of the music ashrams in the city. It was beautiful, and I’ve since taken up “jembe” (hand drum) lessons with one of the teachers. And today I went out with a friend and bought myself a jembe (!!). The lessons mean a commitment to stay in Varanasi for at least another two weeks, which gives me a nice feeling of calm. No rush necessary. There are so many things to learn in this place – so many travellers to meet and connect with, so much photography to take, so many cows to see
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So as I describe the wonder and beauty of this city, I should also add that it is a very unsettling place to be at the same time. Varanasi is every bit an Indian city, with all of its poverty and corruption, and commercialism and scams. I have found myself struggling to trust people and smile while a large part of me is prejudiced and cautious and calculating, always trying to avoid being taken advantage of. On my third day here, I cracked a little. I woke up with no patience for all the “hello maam”s and “rickshaw, maam?”s and whistles and “hello friend”s. I found myself hating everything around me – hating the hypocrisy and the fakeness of the warm hellos, and feeling completely exploited. Interesting, no? Here I was, the wealthy tourist in a third-world city, and I was feeling exploited. I felt like my face labelled me immediately as a giant, walking ATM machine, and I felt I could trust no-one to be genuinely interested in me or my background. Everyone just wanted my money. I wanted to learn peoples stories, and people were happy to share… provided I came with them to their uncle’s shop when we were done conversing. So I walked with my shades on, staring down the men who tried to pick me up and coldly brushing past anyone who smiled at me, and muttering under my breath “shut up” and “back off”. That night, I barricaded myself in an up-scale Japanese restaurant with air-conditioning and large, glass windows that created a clear separation between me and the noisy Indian reality outside. I paid too much for a not-so-great meal, finished it off with some mediocre cheesecake and a phone call to a good friend in Israel, and calmed myself down a bit.
I’m recognizing, slowly, that through all the extremes that I find myself travelling through on this journey, none of them are dangerous. They’re all in my own head. And watching them – looking, acknowledging, and not judging – is incredibly empowering… not to mention free entertainment every day
. I’m trying to watch myself change, and the process is bestowing upon me a great deal of empathy, and a great deal of peace. I don’t think that India is the only place for this to take place. It’s surely possible anywhere and everywhere. The value of being here, and power of the place, is that it’s so new and uncomfortable that you are forced to look everything straight in the face. There is no routine or community or familiarity to cradle you and lull you into a peaceful rhythm. The rhythm is already established here, and just by entering this space you are forced to acknowledge it. You can either learn – REALLY learn – the rhythm, or you can fight it and find yourself chucked all over the place over and over again, hitting your frustrated head against a wall that’s not moving anywhere.
For any of you who are interested, I think this is what they mean when “they” say “culture shock”.
Today I woke up feeling fine, and with a lot more energy. This is great, because I have a lot of drumming practice to do tonight before I get to bed. And we may try and catch a movie in the city or grab a bite to eat with some fellow Sadhana Forest travellers that we ran into this afternoon by chance. This afternoon a few of us went in search of the Chabad House in Varanasi. We were inspired by the graffiti that dotted the bank of the Ganga, pointing us in scribbled Hebrew letters to the “Beit Chabad”. After wandering down some alley ways for more than a little while, we found our spot. The Rabbi seems nice and this Friday night myself, my Aussie non-Jewish friends, and anyone else who wants, will check out Shabbat chez Chabad of Varanasi. I assume we’ll meet a lot of Israelis. Anyone want to make bets on how many?
We’re still working on our New Years plans. Options include:
1. Attending a free community tabla, flute and sitar concert in the neighborhood.
2. Getting in a boat with some guy we met the other day and attempting to light 5000 candles in the Ganga in honour of the New Year.
3. Getting our groove on at a psychedelic dance party at a roof-top restaurant down the street.
I’ll keep you all posted.
So this is what has sprung forth from my mind for the day. There is so much more, and it will trickle out as the days continue. Thank you for keeping up with such a long post, and please be in touch to let me know how all of you are doing! I would love, love, love to call you all for New Years, but I fear this will not be a real possibility. I know that some of you will be together in Toronto, and some in Israel, and some in New York and Boston and San Diego and San Fransisco. Have a BEAUTIFUL time and please know that I’m thinking of you. HAPPY NEW YEAR!
With so much love and adoration,
Hava